When you’re younger you get home from school, do your homework (avoid it until the last minute), get dinner and go out to see your friends. Whilst you’re in college you find you hardly have time to leave the house because of the overwhelming amount of homework, even during holidays. So you barely see anyone and start to become detached to the outside world and end up using social network sites as the only contact with your friends. As you grow up, leave home and finish college you quickly realise that whilst you may now have all the time in the world for your friends they now have lives of their own so won’t always have time for you at the drop of a hat.
So what do you do? Do you sit at home wallowing or realise that you will need to fill that spare time with something that makes you happy. Sometimes you can’t rely on the company of others to keep you occupied and have to find other ways.
As a live aloner I decided that listening to music and doing art projects seem to be the only thing that keeps me sane. I started making jewellery using beads instead of precious metals and gemstones as my funds are quite limited due to a job that is getting me nowhere. So I’ve begun searching for a new job so I can finally get on with life. If these beaded jewellery pieces sell I can start saving up money towards making more jewellery out of metals. Other projects I’ve taken up are drawing using mixed media, re-learning German and writing blogs that are half worth reading. I know my writing is nothing compared to the serious writers. But I’m not a writer, I’m a jeweller so I don’t need my blogs to be ultra serious.
If you’re more academic than arty then you could try re-learning science, maths and languages. Travelling would apply to anybody but I guess funding is needed for that. Or you could try the career everyone thinks they can do, photography. Yeah well when I needed to take professional photos of my jewellery I thought I can’t afford to pay someone so I will just do it myself. Then I found taking a decent photograph of my jewellery was incredibly hard as some of the gemstones were only 2mm and the camera I was using couldn’t pick up the quality of the colour and facets. Then there’s lighting to worry about. Photography is nowhere near as easy as it sounds.
There are also other options like music if you’re talented in that area. If you are not confident enough for singing or find your hands are too small to reach all the chords you don’t need to be a part of the band to make a contribution to music. There is a huge market for writing song lyrics as they are just as important as the music that goes with it.
Just keep doing the things that make you happy and figure out ways to get things moving forward on your own so that you’ll find you won’t need to rely on others as much.